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Telling your child that they were adopted

On Behalf of | Jun 17, 2022 | Adoption

Adopting a child is one of the most rewarding things a Texas family can do. At some point, you may wonder if you should tell them the truth.

What kind of adoption was it?

Depending on the type of adoption you had, your child might already have some information. If they were old enough at the time, they might remember. However, a big factor in determining whether your child should be given details depends on the type of adoption: open or closed.

Open adoption involves a situation where the birth mother is known to the parents and, sometimes, the child. Closed adoption is one where the birth mother is not known.

Why should you tell your child they were adopted?

It can be difficult to tell your child they were adopted. There might be a fear that your special bond could be broken if the truth comes out. However, this is often not the case. Being honest can have the opposite effect and strengthen the family bonds even more.

Your child might already have some idea that they were adopted. They might hear things from another family member or find papers. Finding out this way can be upsetting and possibly damage your relationship.

Telling your child they were adopted can help them understand their history and genetics. If they are later able to have contact with their birth mother or members of her family, they can learn more about any possible medical condition risks.

A child who is given all the information about their adoption often feels empowered. It gives them the chance to make their own decisions in the future. For example, if they want to reach out to biological siblings or other relatives, they are free to do that. Telling your child they were adopted gives them this option and shows them how much you love and respect them.

Telling your child early on that they were adopted can benefit them. Don’t wait until their teens or adulthood.